We tend to spend an awful lot of our time trying to motivate ourselves. We wait until the right moment, right mood or right circumstances to finally take action.
What’s wrong about this approach?
The worst thing about this approach is that we rely on something to happen to us. We wait for the outside change that will somehow affect us to feel excited and ready or for the outside stimulus to push us into the action. It is possible that one day it will happen. It could work at some point in our life. But you need to ask yourself few questions:
Am I willing to wait a long time for something to happen?
What would I feel if nothing happened?
If nothing happens within the next few years, who am I going to blame for this?
How would it feel to start now without waiting?
My guess is that perhaps you are willing to wait but without the guarantee of the success and especially if nothing would happen in few years’ time you could grow a little impatient and frustrated. You could possibly look back and think “Why have I waisted all this time?” Even if it did work for you once in the past, you wouldn’t be here reading this article if your gut feeling wasn’t telling you this isn’t the way to go. This isn’t good enough.
What about starting now?
It is very likely you want to start now but you don’t know how, you just don’t feel like it and you don’t know how to change it. But if you could only bypass all those obstacles and find a way of motivating yourself to start achieving your goals now you would feel relieved and empowered. You would feel better about yourself because you could forget the guilt of ‘not doing’ and letting yourself down over and over again.
So how to change it?
Making the decision to not wait any longer is crucial. You accept responsibility for your own life and become a creator of your own future. From now on you understand it is all up to YOU not other people or circumstances to make a change in your life.
Put your feelings, moods, circumstances on the side.
The feelings and moods will be still there. You practise to simply acknowledge them and you take action anyway.
Take action now
Start small. If your goal is to buy a house in the future you can start with researching on-line how to do it or arranging an appointment with your bank.
Watch your motivation waking up
As you take your first action you will instantly feel a little better. This feeling is the start of you getting more invested in your goal. It brings you a little closer to it and it speaks ‘I am actually doing it!’. I will never forget when I went running for the first time. I always hated running but I had no money for the gym and deep down I knew it is a perfect way of speeding up my metabolism. I also believed that people who run regularly are slimmer and healthier. I wanted to be one of them. One day I made my decision to just go out and do it. I felt lazy and could not be bothered. I went anyway. I told myself I will run for 20 minutes as slow as I want and if I really can’t manage I will switch to fast walking. I struggled a little for the first 10 minutes. It was a shock to my body. Once I warmed up and regulated my breath I knew I was going to last. I passed people on the way looking at me with jealousy and admiration (or so I’ve imagined!). I felt proud. I felt strong. I felt good!
Take more action
When you take more action, you make the good feeling of satisfaction, pride, relief (whatever it is for you) stronger. You also make more progress and gain more knowledge. You start walking your talk.
Watch your motivation grow.
As you regularly take action to achieve your goal, you bring your goal closer and you confirm that if you only put an effort into it- you Can and you WILL move forward. Most of all you create a habit of working towards your achievement!
It is well known that action is the best motivator for all of us. It could be small action. In fact, you might have woken your motivation up a little by just reading this article. Never mind how big or small action is just do SOMETHING!
Things you can do to take action:
- Contact me to ask a question
- Start practising first 3 rules of Think Slim
- Use your imagination to picture yourself slim, successful and happy. Lie down in a quiet place where you won’t be interrupted. Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths and picture yourself slim and happy in details. Do it every day for 10 minutes.
- Ever wanted to move more? Chose 1 activity that you enjoy and practise it every second day for 30 min. Here are some examples of activities that will keep you moving and might even help others:
Cycling to work, Gardening, badminton, table tennis, swimming, playing with kids outside, helping out grandparents around the house, taking neighbours’ dogs for a walk, walking children or grandchildren to school, window shopping with a friend, Heavy duty cleaning. As long as you move more than you normally do, it will work!